Surprisingly, I get this question from a lot of guys out there. I'm sure men will continue to ask the question and I'm happy to provide the answer again and again, but here is the answer for those of you who happen to be searching online and not chatting directly with me on https://wizpert.com/.
Have you been dating for months, even years? Is your relationship progressing and growing deeper? Then you might think it's time to move in together, right? Wrong! Most women will take great offense at such a proposition, because it does not progress your relationship. In fact, it puts it on hold, stalls it, suspends it for an indefinite period of time.
Why? Because you're not making her feel special. That's what women want--to feel desired, wanted--like she's the most important person in the world to you. She may feel less loved by you, less cared for, less important.
So, what does make a girl feel loved, desired, wanted, special? Commitment. Yep, I said it...the big "C" word. Asking your girlfriend to MARRY you says you're "all in," not just partway, not halfway, but 100%. A marriage commitment says you're ready to give everything to her, to care for her financially, emotionally and spiritually for the rest of her life.
Every girl deserves a committed, life-long, fully responsible, caring marriage relationship that will make her feel secure in your love for her and your family. If you're not ready or willing to give this sacrificial gift to her, you are at risk of losing her forever. If she's wise, she will move on to find a man who will give his life for her.
Your girlfriend is looking for a hero--not a knight in shining armor or a prince charming, but a grown up, mature, responsible man who is willing to work hard to provide for her every need and take care of his family.
Such heroes are few and far between in the world today, so become that hero and you will be one of the few. You will also probably discover that being committed and responsible makes you proud, more mature, more masculine...and that will make you happy. Why is this? Because caring for others is how God created you to be. But that is a topic for another time....
For now, take time to consider why you want your girlfriend to move in with you. Why don't you want to marry her? Are you fearful? If so, what are you afraid of?
If you're in a relationship, you're in this together. If she was offended when you asked her to move in with you, sit down with her and ask her why she's upset. Ask her if she would prefer marriage. Respect her feelings and consider her needs. Be honest with her. Share your heart with her. Tell her your concerns. Decide together if marriage is a good idea at this time or if you need to wait.
Every human being has a deep longing to know others and to be fully known and understood. Talk it out. (But please do it in person and not via text-messaging, for pity's sake!) You might be happily surprised at where your intimate communication leads you.
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